Don’t settle for average…and bollocks to ‘humility’
Do you find yourself struggling to think well of yourself? Or dismissing things you were once proud of but now think ‘don’t count’ as they are a while ago? Do you struggle to remember your moments of inspiration or brilliance – or even go so far as to insist that you haven’t had any?
You’re not alone – and it is depressingly easy to fall into that trap, but I WON’T HAVE IT!
It deeply saddens me when I see incredible humans talking down their achievements, not recognising them, or moving on from them so quickly due to the idea that to enjoy them or believe them is ‘bad’. Or, worse still, because other people don’t like it when they do.
Fuck that.
We – especially in Britain – live in a world where we are not encouraged to celebrate ourselves or even think well of ourselves.
This is despite numerous pieces of research and evidence that tells us that healthy recognition and genuine self-regard is better for our performance, our mental wellness and our happiness.
(And don’t come at me with your examples either of people who are arrogant braggers or so-called virtuous in their ‘humbleness’, we all know I’m not talking about them! I’m talking about the majority of the population here).
Also, our world moves on so quickly these days – you achieve something and there can be a sense of “don’t rest on your laurels”, or “better take advantage of that whilst you can”…as if once it’s done, it’s old news.
We’re battling against the speed of the 24 hour news cycle and the (false) need to create, consume and push more, more more…
And, things DO move on. Life DOES go on – very few other people will be reminding you day in and day out of your success and what you CAN do.
Perversely, it seems as even our own selves settle too easily back into ‘reality’…when, in truth, many things may have changed [I was reminded of this just a few months ago on returning home from our epic trip].
The danger is in believing the lie – the lie that that was just a moment. The lie that all that matters is what happens next. That we need to ‘live up to’ something.
If it has happened and you did it, it is REAL. It always will be and you will ALWAYS be that person who is capable of that, and more.
How often have you heard (or even felt), this of someone getting a promotion – perhaps even yourself – “yes, it’s great news, but I just need to do the job now/get the results…”
Imagine how these sort of thoughts impact your days?
And imagine how you would show up if you saw yourself as those who believed in you did?
We need to take some action to embed the changes we have felt or experienced. To act on the inspirations we had. To believe in our successes and incorporate those into our BEING.
So, it’s up to you.
STOP ignoring your successes.
Take the time to recognise your achievements, even small successes.
A very helpful and proven tool for increasing confidence is to make a deliberate note each day of something you did well. Even the smallest thing. In time, you become more accustomed to seeing these things without so much effort to seek them out. This narrative then becomes part of you.
Go... bask in your brilliance, and if you can’t do that and it seems too far away… I can help you crush that inner critic and create the confidence you need.
I love what I do so much because I get to help people like you - who HAVE already done and ARE capable of many things – to believe in themselves, to back themselves and to increase their belief in themselves. This helps them achieve more happiness, success and peace.
If you’d like to talk about working together to get there, book an introductory call.
Freedom awaits 🙏🏻💫